Another triumph of post-Christian sexual morality
tagged birth control, Gloucester, poverty, pregnancy, sex education and shaken baby syndrome
I didn’t say anything about the Gloucester 17 last week, but I trust the Reader is familiar with the story, or at least the main elements of it. Seventeen girls more or less made a pact to get pregnant simultaneously (or as close to it as possible), and then prior to graduating from high school. Apparently, it was the “in” thing to do. None of the fathers seems to be, in any way, present or relevant to the scenario as it unfolds — men as sperm donors, nothing more — and most of the “men” involved were older than the girls themselves (which means, I think, that most of them would be up on charges of statutory rape if they were ever identified).
One of the girls was evidently in such a rush to get pregnant that she had sex with a 24-year old homeless man in order to meet the deadline, so to speak.
There’s so much wrong with this situation that it’s almost impossible to pick a point at which to begin. The absenteeism of the fathers is worrisome and them some, but from the beginning it hasn’t been something which has been lamented in any way. Indeed, the pregnancy pact seemed pretty much built upon the understanding that the fathers would not be involved at all in the pregnancy or the rearing of the resultant child — the dads were, in other words, just sperm donors, and nothing else. The implication that men are no longer expected to take responsibility for their sexual actions is staggering.
There’s also the matter of age disparity. I realize that were everyone involved a bit older, an 8-year age disparity between participants in a sexual relationship wouldn’t be that much of a shocker. It’s happened before. But we’re not talking 32- and 40-year olds here. And to be perfectly fair, I don’t know what the law in Gloucester says regarding the minimum age of consent — around here, some of the fathers would be facing charges. That none of the stories I’ve read on the matter have said anything about the issue of statutory rape is troubling, I find, because the silence seems to carry with it the implication that the whole issue of older people exploiting (or taking advantage) of young teens in a sexual manner is no longer an issue at all.
The response of the community and media has been laughable, as one story after another has carried the lament that more and better access to birth control, or more and better sex education, would have prevented this travesty. Such reasoning is absurd: I don’t think anyone could doubt that all these young women knew everything they would have needed to know about birth control and “protection” — and none of them had in mind a goal that could have been realized through the use thereof. Birth control and sex education mean nothing to someone who has set out to get pregnant, and no amount of sex education or free condoms would have prevented this pact from emerging or succeeding.
What might have helped prevent this mess would have been maintaining, rather than stripping away, the social stigma against teenage, pre-marital pregnancy. If you’re anxious to get pregnant at age 16, and if you’re willing to go to the absurd, and potentially very dangerous lengths of having sex with the guy who lives behind the dumpster near the corner store, a little shame over your actions is probably exactly what you need to feel. If you’re willing to essentially torpedo your future beyond high school because you’re so deluded you think a stroller is The. Hawt. High School. Fashion. Accessory. Of. The. Year, a little shame over your actions and choices might just be the tonic you need to drink.
But we don’t believe in shame anymore, nor do we believe in right judgement. Our post-Christian social attitude can only lead us to say one of two things about these girls: “Hey, don’t judge,” and “Do what makes you happy, baby.”
Of course, most of these young women — or, come to think of it, their children — won’t be “happy” in the end. One commentator asked a very disturbing, but probably accurate question: how many of these babies, once born, will survive even half a year? How many will, later on in life, suffer from shaken baby syndrome? Ace, whose article I link to above, asks what is probably an even more prescient question: “Anyone thinking these seventeen girls’ seventeen children (with many more to come in the next ten years, I’m sure) will have a happy lot in life? That they’ll grow up well-adjusted and well-parented and successful?” Personally, I think Ace’s high-ball estimate of three (out of 17, remember) growing up into well-adjusted adults is…well…too optimistic. Most of these kids will grow up in borderline poverty, and will be the “sluttified” kids at the day-care, the slightly chubby five-year olds wearing the “Juicy” t-shirts and cut-off pants.
And in due time, they’ll be the ones having babies at 16 years of age, making their mothers into grandmothers before said mothers see even their 35th birthdays.
Post-Christian sexual morality for the win!











